I am 29 years old and I am going gray. Really, I have more than my fair share of gray hairs already. I'd like to blame it on genetics - my great-grandmother had gone completely white well before she hit 29. But I don't think genetics is the answer in this case. No, I blame my five year old.
Camden is a wild man. He is also sweet and loving and fun.
I believe that the Lord gives us prompting - even warnings - through the Spirit. And I believe He's been giving me some pretty strong warnings about this boy for quite some time. As in, since he was a newborn. I've known since Camden was born that, despite the fact that he was my quiet, calm, easy baby (the complete opposite of his brother), I was going to have to be very careful and protective of him.
See, I have nightmares. Not the kind of nightmares you have after watching a scary movie (I don't do that) or telling ghost stories by the campfire (I'd rather sing silly songs). No, I have very powerful nightmares, and they are always about Camden.
When he was tiny I used to have dreams of him disappearing from his crib. I'd go to check on him in the middle of the night and instead of my sweet baby I would be greeted by a scary adult hand coming out of the crib to grab at me. Or I would hear him crying and I would get up to go take care of him. Only he wouldn't be in his crib, the cries would be coming from the basement. And I would know, as I got to the top of the stairs, that somebody had him down there, and I was alone, and if I went down they would hurt me and then I wouldn't be able to save my baby. Or even let anyone know he was in danger. I spent many sleepless nights, even after he started sleeping through the night, just watching my baby sleep. Because those dreams were so scary.
It's been a few years since I last dreamed about Camden being harmed. But last night my Camden nightmares came back. Last night, in my dream, I watched him fall two stories to the concrete floor below. Thankfully, I woke up as I was running to where he would have landed, so at least I was spared the image of my little boy on the ground after that fall. It was terrible enough as it was.
I can't help but wonder, what does this all mean? Why do I dream such horrible things about my sweet little boy? And it's not because I'm a crazy, paranoid parent (I hope!). Have I ever dreamed that Jake was in danger? No, not once. But Camden, all the time.
I think I am being warned. He is a special little boy. He is smart and cute and has incredible energy and charisma. I have no doubt that he is going to go very far in life. But he is fearless. He thinks the crime is worth the punishment. He doesn't believe me when I tell him something is dangerous or will hurt. He'd rather discover those things for himself. And I have to watch him like a hawk. Because he is a great kid and will be a great man. As long as I can get him safely to adulthood.
Sometimes I worry that I won't be up to the task. But as much as I hate having nightmares about my baby, I also have to give thanks for them. As scary as it is to wake up convinced that my little boy just fell two stories, I am grateful that it didn't really happen. And I am grateful for the warnings I receive, as his mother, to watch and care for this special little boy. I know that because of these dreams I pay more attention and am more careful to watch and to teach him to watch for danger.
I just wish these warnings would be a little less stressful for me. My hair can't take it.